You can shed a tear

Yesterday was the funeral and a very emotional day.
I spent the entire day either sat in a car, crying, or awkwardly trying to find something to say to grieving relatives. I found the service very upsetting, but at the same time I learnt so much about the person from the eulogy, and a poem that was read out was really beautiful:

You can shed a tear that she is gone
Or you can smile because she has lived

You can close your eyes and pray that she will come back
Or you can open your eyes and see that she has left

Your heart can be empty because you can't see her
Or you can be full of the love that you shared

You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday

You can remember her and only that she is gone
Or you can cherish her memory and let it live on

You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back
Or you can do what she would want: smile, open your eyes, love and go on.

When it was written it was about unrequitted love. At some point in was used at a Lady's funeral which the Queen heard about and asked for it to be read at the Queen Mother's funeral. Since then it has been a popular poem for funerals, but the reason it was read yesterday was that a clipping of it was found in my relative's address book and it was taken as a sign that she would have liked it.